Weeknotes #49: That Being Human Thing
Falling in love with compassion as bread and butter for working with change
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Hello, it has been a few weeks of quiet weeknotes, writing them mostly in my mind, working through a bunch of personal changes and also big shifts in how I think about my coaching and organisational development practice. It’s been good to give my thoughts time to simmer. I’m thinking a lot about how this was the softest thing to do.
The focus in my coaching practice has been shifting over the last two years working on OrgBuilders. More and more I work in team coaching sessions and more and more I am loving to see how well these complement 1-2-1 work. It’s also gorgeous to see how much we can achieve together as teams when we come ready to be changed. And to be ready to be changed, we need to be ready to accept our limitations.
I’m thinking a lot about the compassion we need to muster to exist in relationship to our own and each other’s limitations.
And also about the immensity of the task of allowing ourselves to become part of the reality of another, and to let others try to understand our own. How entirely predictable, that most often, we hide precisely the thing about ourselves that can bring about the most connection - how scared we really are, how insecure, how unsure about what next. And yet, the moment we utter those words, whether in the warm gaze of our own selves or another, we are liberated on the other side of those feelings - somewhere where we’re not necessarily free of fear or uncertainty, but where it becomes possible to experience it and realise that not only we can contain it but be transformed by it.
That being human thing is afterall the thing that change is made of.
What can ever change, whether a person, team or organisation without first enduring the first step of admitting limitation, vulnerability, the need for relationship and learning from it? And if, in this process, you find that others mistreat your vulnerabilities, will it not have been worth it to become as fully human as you could? And in that process had animated and positively confused yours and others’ hearts?
This week learning with:
Brap - Equity Unpacked: Leadershop Development that Reimagines ED+I (training opportunity)
Scaffolded anti-racist resources (list of links and resources)
Edgy Ideas - Humanising the workplace (Gabriella Braun and Psychoanalytical approaches to coaching) - (podcast)
Playing in the Key of the Clown, L M Bogad, Reflections on the Clandestine Insurgent Rebel Clown Army.
Why the Nazis are so afraid of clowns - Sarah Freeman-Woolpert.
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